There are a lot of things that run through your mind when getting down to it in the sack, and sometimes a large portion of those thoughts are about what could go wrong.
It’s something that you want to go well and smoothly, so it’s okay to have a few anxieties about time, size, position and so on. One thing you don’t usually have to take into account though, is the possibility of passing out.
Unfortunately for Laura Crow, she has a 50/50 chance of passing out during sex, due to a rare condition.
The 28-year-old was diagnosed with debilitating postural tachycardia syndrome (PoTS) in 2011, which was triggered by her first pregnancy.
During activities which cause adrenaline to surge through her body, filling her with excitement, her heart rate rises to a scary level, causing her to faint.
“The fainting can happen anywhere, any time – but with PoTS it’s usually a case of gravity taking over, so the best way for us to do it is missionary, with me lying down,” Laura told Caters, “The first time it happened it was a massive shock for both of us.
“Ben gets very upset – when I wake up he is very distressed, even though he never continues after I’ve passed out.
“Once I faint I don’t know what’s going on, but it’s very traumatic and worrying for him.”
Though her 28-year-old husband Ben gets understandably worried and frustrated with the fainting, the condition hasn’t affected their relationship. It’s not just when the pair get down to it that passing out occurs though… The mum-of-three also passes out when she hasn’t had enough sleep, temperature is too high, when laughing or exercising and anything that causes her heart rate to increase, like watching a horror movie, according to Caters.
“When I was around four weeks’ pregnant, I passed out and went to the doctors,” she said. “I’d never fainted in my life until then. I think I had had the PoTS before then, but it just took the pregnancy and the ‘trauma’ to my body to trigger it.”
Sometimes Laura’s condition causes her to faint up to seven times a day, but that hasn’t stopped them hopping into bed and having more kids. They’ve had two more since she was diagnosed and luckily, since then, her condition has improved.
“The children are amazing though – my six and three-year-old are registered as young carers,” she said. “Even my one-year-old will sit and stroke my hair while she waits for her dad to rush over after I’ve passed out.
“It breaks my heart that they almost have to look after me, but they’re incredible and they know no different.”